A Newcomers Guide to Masturbating with a Vibrator

For those who enjoy versatility, this vibrator features one non-vibrating side and one vibrating side — both great for vaginal and anal pleasure. It looks luxurious, and you can play with three vibration patterns and three power levels. “Pleasure and orgasm are really good for you because they release hormones that reduce stress and anxiety,” says Zar. For most women, the clitoris is the gateway to orgasm — and this toy is made specifically for that pleasure part.

A combo of vibration and “tongue” licking (lube up for a realistic glide) targets your clit for maximum orgasming power, and you can also hold it against a male partner’s penis during a blowjob to really turn up the heat. You can also feel comfortable knowing your privacy is top of mind — it features Smart Silence Technology, meaning your toy only turns on when it touches your skin. In the sonic sphere, theConnaisseur MJ exhibits many classic spruce-and-mahogany characteristics.

We get that it can be overwhelming to sift through the retailer’s thousands of products, so allow us to do the shopping for you. “This finger vibrator has a unique shape (similar to fingers) that is easy to hold and maneuver, and surrounds the clitoris with two prongs of vibrational power. Pulsing or continuous vibes help enhance the sensation and allow you or a partner to pinch, tease, and robustly massage the clitoris into bliss,” says Balestrieri.

So while you may not be tossing it in your purse or boldly striding past airport security with it in your cosmetics bag, you can rest assured that it’ll keep your profile low while in use. The Lelo Dot also features a ring and low, quiet vibrations, but has a shape unlike the shapes of other vibrators. The tapered body of the vibrator allows users to explore and then maximize the specific pleasure points of their erogenous zones both externally (don’t forget about sexy, sensitive areas such as the nipples!) and internally. It stays true to its promise of a vacillating between a “teasing murmur” and a “satisfying pulse,” never straying into a loud, distracting buzz. This “beautiful looking product” provides double the pleasure with a suction head to mimic oral sex and an insertable love egg to target the G-spot. Testers loved the feel of the soft silicone against their skin and said it was a cinch to use thanks to easy-to-follow instructions.

If and when you’re ready to upgrade from a bullet vibrator to something bigger and insertable, try the Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator. Yes, I know Je Joue calls it a bullet, but it’s bigger and more versatile than its name suggests. It has a bulbous tip designed to stimulate the G-spot, but it can also be used for external simulation. Move over neon-colored and animal-themed vibrators from the ’90s and early ’00s. Today’s vibrator’s are sophisticated and designed to prioritize safety and function as well as pleasure. There’s a vibrator out there for every taste and preference viberator, whether you like a simple bullet or something more elaborate.

We instructed our testers to use each toy themselves and to incorporate these toys into partner play when possible. We’ve also solicited long-term testing feedback from folks who bought their first vibrators based on the advice in this guide. But buying sex toys can be an intimidating experience for newbies and experienced users alike, and not just due to the buyer’s shyness. High-quality sex toys are often expensive and nonreturnable, you have hundreds (if not thousands) of sex-toy models to choose from, and the criteria for what makes a good sex toy can be highly subjective. Determining what toy will work best for you based on reviews can be difficult because every person’s sexual response is different. Nobody wants to spend $100-plus on a toy that turns out to be a dud.

The Point Plus allows you to experiment with different textures and vibrations, thanks to the included sleeves. Place them over the smooth silicone bullet (which boasts 20 powerful modes) and enjoy the new sensations on your clit. SELF’s former commerce editor adores this vibe from sexual wellness company Maude, which blends an egg , finger, and wand vibrator in one.